Spreading Light

I have came across "Healing with the Masters- Hosted by Jennifer Mclean" and am really appreciating what it has to offer. I get to listen to some of the best speakers in a teleseminar setting for free, with the option of paying for an upgrade if I wanted more access to the audio. Some of the speakers, who are in the world of healing/lightwork/personal development, whom I have really enjoyed include Dr. Richard Bartlett, Jacqueline Joy, Jo Dunning, Dr. Wayne Dyer, etc. With limited time, you can purchase different packages offered by the speaker for a discounted price. It is nice to have the choice of receiving this kind of services with payment as well as no payment. Many of them consciously transmit energy while they are on the conference call, and I would get a shift/ buzz or more into my heart space. Love it :)

They are also offering monthly prayer circle for $1.99 or FREE. That sounds pretty good to me!

Create More Space in Our Lives through Digital Detox

I have to admit- I am an internet addict.

Symptoms:

I recognize that I was checking my emails around the clock, and had the tendency to click on something or anything frantically, while knowing very well that I was wasting precious time. I would facebook-creep on people on my list and even random strangers. Another way to waste time, but I would rather call it "appreciation for photography and others' lives." It is like reading the tabloids on people that I actually know personally. Sometimes the random clicking and the facebook creeping are performed simultaneously. Addictive yet so not necessary.

Even during my travels, I have spent a lot of money on internet access in order to feel a connection to home. Interestingly enough, I would still be able to go online in some of the most remote places where accessibility by roads are not available or the closest city would be nowhere to be seen.

Causes:

The main platforms that I am most concerned with these days are facebook and instant messages. The need of virtual connection started off from ICQ, then to other ones such as MSN Messenger, Skype and  Facebook. I usually had the latter ones on most of the time just for the sake of it, even when I was not around the computer. Perhaps that need of connection comes from a sense of comfort and power to have my friends in the palm of my hand, or an old habit that I have gotten just a little too attached and used to. It has became to be a substitute for catching up instead of telephone or email, which can also be time consuming.

Remedy- Digital Detox:

Cut off. Eliminate. The thought of cutting technology off gave me a strong reaction in my body. Deleting my account would be absurd. Okay, baby steps. Start with some gentle cleansing actions first!






1. Turn chat status to invisible. That way, people cannot send me instant messages but I can still see who are all there. I can still peek every now and then. Eventually, I might work my way up to not having these programs open at all.

2. Do a spring cleaning of contact list on facebook. I had about 500 friends which 200 have been deleted! That is almost half. It was not easy to start deleting, but once the clicking starts, it got much easier (maybe it is the addiction of random clicking?). It was also tough deleting people whom I have met from traveling. Knowing that I might not see them again in my life, cutting cords from facebook means an absolute clean chop. Do I or should I care about these people's lives? It is time to let go of the past and create more space for people who do matter to me now.

Here are some of the criterias that helped me with my decision on who cannot make the cut:

• If I were to see them on the street, I would pretend I didn't see them and walk away fast.
• People who date back to highschool whom I do not talk to anymore.
• People who are not in alignment or have nothing in common with me anymore.
• People from the younger party scene days.
• People who reside in other parts of the world whom I probably would not contact even if I visit their cities.
• Shady or negative people.

The keepers:

• People who I still talk to currently or would like to connect with again at some point.
• People who have similar interests, eg. art, bodywork, spirituality, etc., who might be able to provide useful resources on events and information.
• People who I have just met. I should at least give them a chance until the next clean up.
• People from work.
• People I have met residing in different parts of the world, who I would like to meet again and possibly provide assistance in my traveling.
• People who I get a good vibe from or are genuinely nice.

It actually doesn't effing matter after all. A lot of them probably did not notice I was gone because I do not post like a marketing spammer. If we were meant to connect again, life would bring them to me and I can add them as friends online again. What if they got upset? I could be honest about my regular contact clean up and intention. If necessary, I would just say that it was an accident.

The Result:

I did not care too much for the loss of 200 facebook friends, and no one from there has noticed and contacted me yet.

The other day, I had to send a message to some people on my list. I found that it was much easier to navigate the downsized list.

I feel a little more comfortable with wall postings for some reason.

The Annual Big Day:

It was my birthday recently. I was secretly anticipating to see the wishes from my social media friends, which over 50 of them ended up leaving messages on my wall! I must say it was quite a turn out for a list of 300 people, considering some people do not use it on a regular basis or are just not exactly that close to me. It was a warming feeling to know that I have not been forgotten by people who live in different parts of the world, who also have not been in touch with me for awhile.

I have done a lot of birthday celebration with my friends and family in the past week. However, it was very quiet on my actual birthday. The only person I have seen was my co worker since I had to work on that day. I went home to start packing for my trip to Cali the next day so I didn't plan anything. So, I had over 50 facebook wishes, around 5 phone text wishes, and one birthday wish phone call. Wow, we have became so technologically inclined! I told my friend who called me that it was so nice to hear a human voice on my birthday. Learning from this, I will try to make an effort in creating more human and organic interactions with others on special occasions in the future. Doing things the old school way does make a difference!

Other thoughts:

Honestly, after some time, I still feel that I am addicted to the need to facebook peek. At least I turn my chat to "off" much more than I used to. Facebook can be a great tool to inform and empower others, which I much prefer over BS-ing with friends. Not that we don't need a little bit of fun BS-ing in our lives but everything needs moderation. It is important for me to consciously remind myself to not get into internet cruise control in order to stick to the digital diet plan.

Just like training my monkey mind, I shall use social media wisely as a tool instead of having it controlling me.

How to Get Through Interesting Times

It is funny how I am only motivated to write when I am going through "interesting" (a.k.a. shitty) times. Currently I am in a bath with the whole package: candle, gemstone, essential oils, sad music on the laptop, which converts my skin into some sort of a red raisin from the combo of espresso vodka and over-hydration by sitting in the water. Alas! I am finally inspired to write about deep thoughts!

So you are wondering how to get over shitty... oops... I mean interesting times? Well, all you have to do is to change your perspective and state!

First thing is to understand that whatever is happening is a time for growth and figuring out WTF this lesson is about. If your life is too easy, then challenge and growth do not exist. The human game would be boring and easy (yawn~). Also, if something out of the ordinary ever happens, you would not be able to handle anything at all. So it is our joyful challenge to find abundance and the state of "it's all good" in ALL circumstance. It is not what and how much you acquire and secure, but finding out what we value in order to see the abundance and love for what it is in front of you. You do not own anything yet everything is all yours. This game is complex and oh so genius! Be conscious and figure out what we are learning here!! Otherwise, your lessons will come back over and over again.....ugh, what's the point, know what I mean?

1. Gratitude:

It's been heard so many times and a lot of times it meant nothing to me. It only made sense to me when I was either in a different state or when I seriously took the time to count the blessings I had. Yes, even the little things, and don't underestimate their power.

Here are some example from yours truly (yes, I'm uncomfortably exposing a little bit of myself) :

• I am grateful for the freedom I have because I have experienced working over time where I had no time for myself. I appreciate having the time to focus on myself and getting things done.
  
• I am grateful for the friends and support that I have because I remember the times when I had none around me during my travels.
  
• I am grateful for the heart break because I now know that only someone who cares about and connects with me on a deeper level can fulfill my needs. I look forward to be with the right person for me.
  
• I am grateful for a roof on top of my head and healthy food which are all I really need in order to live. The spacious environment allows me to expand in all areas of my life.
  
• I appreciate the rain because it feeds the plants and provides plenty of water for our needs.
  
• I am grateful to be working in the field of wellness beause it took me so long to find work that is so enjoyable and fulfilling. I love this free and alternative lifestyle.
  
• I am grateful to have such an interesting and exciting life, no matter what the numbers are.
  
• I am grateful to be alive. I remember that nothing is real but only fun and joy.
  
• I appreciate the internet and computer which helps me learn, grow and connect with others.
  
• I am grateful for my health so that I can function normally, especially seeing a close friend who is in the hospital for cancer treatment.
  
• I appreciate every delicious breath that I take.
  
• I appreciate my family who is in close proximity and would offer help whenever I need.
  
• I am grateful for having healers around me for exchange.
  
• I am grateful for all the options that are available because I get to choose how to live my life.

However, it might not be helpful if you try too hard to be positive about everything. If you feel like crap, then just dive into it, and be thankful for the reminder that you are still alive. I suppose you can call it as "gloomy positivity."  
  

2. Put yourself into priority:

Ask yourself: what is the appropriate thing to do right now in order for you to move forward gracefully?

It is really all about you. Sure, we can be compassionate and continuously give to others, but get this straight- we have to start with ourselves first.

• Go meditate/ have a drink/ go party/ get inspired/ etc.
  
• Step back and see from a third person point of view. You have been good at giving advice, so why not learn from yourself from that perspective?
  
• Maybe it is not all about you. So stop focusing on yourself, and start to get distracted by others who are less fortunate than you, like your friend who is feeling like crap in the hospital.

3. Everything you and others do are out of love:

Recently, I watched this movie called "Perfume: The Story of a Murderer" which gave me this great insight. It is about this guy who was born with an unusual superior sense of smell. He found a girl with an euphoric scent whom he ended up killing by accident. He was then determined to find a way to preserve such scent through the route of murder. I am not going to give the plot away but this theme is what stuck with me, and then suddenly, everything felt okay after realizing that "it's all out of love."

See from the perspective that all the crap we have done, others have done to us, or things that we have regretted doing was out of love:

• The unhealthy ___(such as food, partner, substance) that you might have indulged in was done through the love of indulgence and making yourself feel good. You loved it at the moment, right?
  
• The crazy roommate that you put up with was through the love and compassion you have for all beings.
  
• The guy who was being a jerk was acting the way he was because he actually cared about you/ himself- which are no different since we are all one...
  
• You slacked off because you needed a break. It is completely fine to take care of yourself and slow down.
  
• You might have felt like you wasted time and energy on ______, but the fact is, you were living it up! That is all that matters then.

4. Do something that would shift or distract you from the state which you need to move on from:

• Get some healing from others, such as energy work or massage. Let someone else do the work for you. You have already taken the step of self healing with this intention.
  
• Get active: go play some sport, be in nature, make art, connect with people who care about you, connect with new people, etc.
  
• Pamper yourself, and ideally, it should be something that you can easily feel grateful for.
  
• Traveling-- can be refreshing and help with being in the moment through unfamiliar stimulation.
  
• Take a break and find your neutral space. What does it feel like to be in your own energy?

Most of all, it is about balance and understanding that nothing really matters. You have nothing to lose. What you have is not permanent. Seriously. The current keeps on flowing and there is no need to hold on to anything. It is all okay after all. Be good to yourself and look forward to your exciting future.

Put an End to Energy Feeding

Do you feel tired or confused being around certain people or visiting certain places? Are there people who just would not stop talking your ear off? It might be the result of energy feeding. It is also known as psychic vampirism, which actually is a common occurence that we are all guilty of doing on an unconscious level.

My friend has recently sent me a link to a free teleseminar given by Geoffrey and Linda Hoppe on energy feeding, which I found informative and useful. I would say it is worth taking the time to listen to, and free is nice too.

What I understand is that energy is abundant and also can be self- generated. I think it is okay to feed off of energy that is created between yourself and others, such as in a romantic relationship. However, when you reach past the boundary of others to the point of taking something out of them, then that's not really cool. Relationships become abusive when two people do not stand in their own grounds and meet in the middle. For example:

• giving or dumping crap to others
• stepping on others to make oneself feel better
• "needing" others
• stealing something physical from others, such as money

When that person gets fed upon, he/she will feed back on the predator or someone else, which becomes a chain reaction. I suppose that is karma, the cycle of cause and effect.

This topic reminds me of a friend who is tired all the time, despite eating healthy and being active. I figured the act of energy feeding might be the reason, as she is in a marriage with a go- getter husband who expects her to be up- to- par, with other disfunctional friends and family members in their lives.

Another friend and I have phone chats sometimes where one of us would suddenly become aware of a loss of energy. Then the other person would be apologetic and try to send back the energy. We would be polite about it, and that would go back and forth, which I find quite funny. We would take each other's energy on a subconscious level while being to notice such changes.

I find that going to the mall or shopping, especially under yucky fluorescent lighting can be draining for me. I wonder if it is the place or the people that suck my energy?

Etheric entities can also take our energy through emotions and dreams, which could leave people exhausted after a night of intense dreams. Can we get some 24/7 protection, please?

The media feeds on our fear and emotions through frightening news on a constant basis. Fear is one emotion that holds us back from liberation, so in other words, this is one of the many means of mind control.

We need to start listening to our own bodies instead of outside influences. What would things be like if we are closer to our natural states?

Until we understand that we have everything we need within us, that we don't need other's approval to be good enough, then we can stay within our own space and power. Do you know what your own space/energy feels like?

So anyhow, after listening to the teleseminar and following the simple act of intention daily: to not allow others feed on me energetically, and that I do not need to feed on others because I have everything I need within myself. Since then, I have not felt tired much and more conscious of my interactions with others.

I hope that we can all move towards becoming clearer with who we are, which in turn would allow for healthier and respectful relationships with others.

Different Format

To embrace change and moment-to-moment inspiration, I have a new idea for my distance healing service. Instead of offering group healing sessions, it would be personalized requests from now on. The sessions happen in multiples over a period of time, depending on one's condition or life situation. It can be helpful for people with physical/emotional issues or who are wanting a shift in their lives.

Please send your request or any questions to: muchappreciation[@]gmail[dot]com

There are still more changes coming for the site. I am serious! I think...:)

Healing through iTunes

Nowadays technology has became such a big part of our lives. Remember how life used to be before the birth of the world wide web? Pretty different, right? The internet allows for accessible connection between people from all over the world and for us to be more aware of what is happening. We have even made it portable and carry the world with us by using laptops, phones, etc. Some people are against all of these, believing that we make less connections in person, spend less time doing "real things", divert our attention by texting non-stop at ALL occasions, or use up endless hours sitting in front of a screen looking at pixels.

Yes, true that. Yet I love and am an addict of computer and internet. It is a platform for my expression and connection to others, and a research tool for anything that fancies me at any given moment. At the same time, I still want to be be buddies with mother nature. It is all about balance, right? Yes, we can do both. We sure can treat technology as an assistant in connecting with ourselves.

A local matrix-er/ healer, Cory Asbreuk, has created an interesting iTunes application called Pocket Healer. Basically, it is a 5 minute healing session on-the-go, right in your very own magic device such as an iPhone/ iTouch/ iPad. This can help balance and increase your energy levels in order for your body to heal itself and smooth out other areas of your life. I think it is an innovative and useful idea, priced affordably at $2.99! It is better than popping a pill for your headache. Imagine centering yourself with a healing session during your break at work everyday, or even use it on people around you who might need a dose of healing!

Click flame to download.

I also have new ideas for my own website in order to make healing more accessible to everyone. So stay tuned and be well...

How to Deal with Difficult Times

The long a-- hallway at the front door

My school has ended in June, yet my life has been non-stop like an energizer bunny (not exactly physically energized though). I have been yearning to get out of my cramped and dark place, so I decided to move to somewhere bigger in order to continue my massage practice. It was time consuming to look for a place one after another, but I ended up finding it through friend's referral. The building itself is blah-zay with a smelly and linty hallway (better now), but the suite itself is surprisingly different. It has new laminated hardwood floor, newly renovated kitchen and bathroom counter tops, clean white/off white walls and an interesting layout. Presented with a fresh, clean and spacious feeling, I have agreed to take it.

For the rest of that month, I was busy packing and getting ready to move. By the time I moved in, I spent most of July looking for furniture and decorating the place. I actually had very little furniture from my previous world's-tiniest bachelor, so it was quite strange to be in a much bigger space. I did not even have any proper tables and chairs, so I was feeling quite lonely and sad at times, with the company of unpacked boxes lying around the place. I also do not have a car, and somehow, it seemed difficult to get rides and help off my friends who seemed to have busy lives. From these non-stop action with much financial burden, I have to say- "Dang! It can be really tough to do it all on my own."

My emotional states have been fluctuating quite a bit as I am taking things one day at at time. Fortunately, there are encounters/angels who give me good reminders to stay on top of the (human) game, or keep my head on top of the water. I know aside from myself, many people around me are also going through many changes, as humanity and the earth are evolving at a fast rate. Here are some points that might be helpful to those of you who are going through difficult times:

• Accepting where you are and what happened.
  
  Say this out loud right now, "I truly and deeply accept what has happened and where I am right in this moment." If you can read this, then you are and will be doing just fine. Things usually have their reasons for showing up, so thank it and move on to something like the "now."
  
  
• Ask yourself- Are you resisting or allowing?
  
  It is our nature to flow with life, so whenever there is a feeling of resistance in any events, we are going against the natural current. You probably have experienced or can imagine swimming up a stream? What a workout! Or is it possible to even get close to the destination? On the other hand, I used to quite enjoy competing with friends in sprinting against the opposite direction of an escalator. Does that mean our resistance might possibly be a secretly enjoyable creation which we have became attached to? Aha, so that is what we called "drama queen/ king."
  Anyhow, what I am trying to say is: stop stressing, let the eff go and allow!
  
  
• Don't try to do solve any issues when you are not centered.
  
  In my recent experience, I was seeking clients while I was not feeling centered, and I ended up manifesting a sketchy person (yuck)! I was basically not operating in the right state, which created a blockage between me and my higher source/guidance. Learn from my mistake: make sure you are clear in your own energy and heart before you figure things out.
  
  
• Spend time to meditate.
  
  Stop stressing. Stop doing. Stop trying. Breathe. Let the sand sink and the water becomes clear. Create space to allow. Be the space. Ah...
  
  
• Connect with nature.
  
  Like meditation, if you can take some time to connect with nature, it is a quick and easy way to come back to your natural state. Yes, negative ions from the ocean and mountain are mm-mm good for you.
  
  
• Keep energy moving through exercise, yoga, chi gong, meditation, etc. to maintain a higher vibrational state.
  
  Clear out any blockages through movements and running energy. Keep things flowing in order for things to shift faster. Also, endorphin and a healthy body can keep you happy.
  
  
• Live from the heart and not the head.
  
  You head (logic) is a lot more limited than your heart (unconditional love). Your inspiration and passion come from the heart, as it is the connection to the source. Keep your heart cleared then your life becomes easy breezy magical.
  
  
• Play the vibrational game.
  
  If you want to play the conscious manifestation game, then working with vibration is the way to go. Like Bashar say- "Circumstances don't matter, only state of being matters" (Double meaning with the word "matter").
  
  
• Appreciate the little things/ synchronicities.
  
  You have manifested everything in your life so far. Appreciation is a higher vibrational state, so working with it would probably be beneficial. If you can take some time to appreciate every little thing in every moment, you are actually tapping into the amazement of this world. Nothing you think is real is actually real but made up of atoms and molecules. Just like these words are made up of pixels. Everyone is an actor/actress whose hologram intersects with yours. What do you find so amazing in this moment? Wow, a computer and its ability to connect to the rest of the world in split seconds. Thank you and I love you.
  
  
• Read books for guidance.
  
  I have gone through a self-help-book phase before, and after awhile, it was all the same stuff but in different words. I have not touched them for awhile but I have found it very helpful to go through them every now and then to stay on track. Sometimes I feel like I'm re-learning/unlearning everything all over again.
  
  
• Ask for help.
  
  Don't try to do everything all on your own, just ask for help. We are people, interconnected, and here to help each other. Even non-people, like the God you believe in, he/she is there for you 24/7. Talk to someone and get different perspective on things. However, my advice is don't over do it.
  
  
• Change the way you see/ do things, and they can become very different.
  
  My friend has found a partner who is totally not his type to begin with, and vice versa. As they got to know each other, they have found compatibility and joy. With an open mind, sometimes unexpected things happen. Having a flexible believe system (BS) goes with the natural flow of life, as nothing is ever permanent.
  Are you struggling with the same old issue over and over again? You might be stuck in a pattern from conditioning. It could be resolved by seeing the situation or doing something differently. Think outside of the box.
  
  
• Write things down (to-do or wish list) in order to manifest.
  
  Writing is the first step to assist with materialization in the form of words on a piece of tangible paper, or pixels on a digital screen. Ideas and thoughts floating around in your head can still be manifested but just not as solid. For me, it is quite satisfying to cross out a to-do list, and it makes me feel so organized!
  
  
• Let go of control yet still do your ground work.
  
  Letting go does not mean you can just sit on your couch and expect things to fall into your lap. Sometimes that can happen but don't count on it. Do what you can do without stress, from a clear head and heart space.
  
• Do you best in this moment.
  
  There is only now, so you might as well do your best. If you do your best, you might have a better next now. Who knows, you might even not be here tomorrow, so appreciate your every day.

• Trust in yourself and the universe.
  
  Trust that the universe is looking after you, and believe in yourself. Most of us don't give ourselves enough credit for being us. Believe it or not, we are all truly amazing in our own unique ways.
  
  
• It doesn't effing matter!
  
  That is a great philosphy to go by. Say this or "f**k it!" (a recent book that is selling at where I work). We tend to take everything and ourselves way too seriously.
  

How to Hold Space for Healing

I get newsletters from Lightworker from time to time, which consist of event announcements and messages from the Espavo group. They are etheric entities with something to say, channeled by Steve Rother. Generally, their intent is to spread the light and help humans play "the game."

The recent one I have received was about the 12 Paradigms for Facilitating Healing in the 5th Dimension. It is intended to help you to both define higher truths for yourself, as well as keep your balance while creating space for others to heal themselves.

These points from Steve Rother's book Spiritual Psychology provides a solid backbone of what it means to be a facilitator in healing in this day and age. I find myself resonating with all of the points within my understanding and experience. The task of being an assistant in healing and living consciously takes a lot and so little at the same time. I suppose finding yourself is surely interesting!

Even if you are not involved with any of this or totally lost in what I am saying, this information is still helpful in understanding self healing.

The world is changing at a tremendous speed now, so now is a crucial time for people to focus on evolving and healing in order to face the challenges. By reconnecting with nature and our natural states, we can hopefully ride the wave gracefully!

1. Focus on Empowerment.
 Healing in the higher vibrations of the New Earth can only take place when each person holds their own power.  This means that our first concern and our first intent must always be to find ways to facilitate others without taking their power from them. 

2.  Healing by Request.
Henceforth, all healing facilitation must be by request only.  It is no longer possible in the new energy to facilitate healing for another without their specifically requesting it.

3.  Intent.
 In the New Energy, it is only possible to facilitate healing with the highest intent.  Remember - on the New Planet Earth.  .  .  there will be no more secrets.  Thus, as facilitators, we must allow ourselves and our motivations to be fully apparent.

4.  Perception.
 Understand that illness is not always a sign that something is wrong.  There are times when illness is necessary to facilitate change, and our role is merely to help facilitate that process.  It’s important to recognize that illness is only one state of health, and that a healing facilitator must learn to work with all states in order to create environments where health prevails. 

5.  Truth.
As a facilitator it is important to always speak one’s own truth. Yet, in doing so, we must acknowledge that truth is always a work in progress.  Thus, leave yourself room for growth in the words you speak, and speak your truth in a fashion that allows others to stand in their own truth without feeling threatened by yours.  Honor all flavors of the truth, no matter how different they may seem from your own. Remember - competition is only an illusion of polarity on the Gameboard.

6.  Balanced Ego.
A balanced ego is necessary in order to facilitate healing. Thus, as facilitators, it is necessary for us to check our egos often and to examine truthfully our own motivations for our actions or words.  If our ego grows too big, it will cut us off from our source.  Yet, if it is not big enough, we will never take our place as a healer. 

7. Discernment.
We must learn to practice the art of discernment in making choices without judgment; to monitor carefully what enters our field, and to be discriminating about choosing only those things and ideas that complement our own vibration.  Everything else should be released without judgment.  We  do not have to be a part of everything.  Rather, we must learn to choose only what feeds and nurtures us. 

8.  Creating Safe Space.
The wisest words that a facilitator can use are: "I do not know."  Thus, even as we are teaching, we must make space for the empowerment of others. None of us has all of the answers, but together, all of us have access to all of the answers.

9.  Vulnerability.
Our true strength as healers lies in being able to be vulnerable.  It is our humanness that makes us special.  We must learn to let this shine through in all that we do, and to share mistakes openly with others. In this way, our perceived weaknesses will soon become our greatest strengths.

10.  Mastery of Thought.
Remember - we may not have control over the thoughts that enter our heads, but we do have complete control over what stays there.  Thus it is our responsibility to become a master of our own thoughts and to share this process with those with whom we work.

11.  Motivation.
It’s important to understand that everyone has the same base motivation.  Fundamentally, we are all like little children, fumbling around in a darkened room, searching for the door back into the light.  The easiest way to find the Light while not hurting one another is to hold hands.

12.  Responsibility.
It is not possible to heal another.  It is only possible to create and offer them space in which to heal themselves, if they so choose.  So do not take responsibility for the healing of anyone other than yourself.  If you should find yourself drained of energy by your clients it is because you are taking responsibility for their healing.  Remember that responsibility is the balance of power.  Help those you facilitate to take responsibility for their own healing so that they may hold their true power.